Éva Vitos' report
I am a first-year CSK SZT student, Farkas Julia is my teacher. In our lesson last week, I mentioned to Júlia their joint book (Solution focus and search for meaning in the treatment of school bullying) my practical experience gained by and Júlia asked me to share this in writing, we only spoke a few words about it in class.
I work with teenagers with a coach and psychological assistant qualification, and the opportunity arose to go to a ninth-grade high school class, shake up the cliquey, divisive community a little, and see what the problem might be. I read their book with great enthusiasm, which went quickly due to its easy readability and digestibility. I thought that in the end I would put together a theme for the scheduled meeting for the students based on what I had learned, which would be an interactive workshop-like lesson.
That's when I discovered the practical part from Gabriella in the book, which was a huge joy and relief, since I got the plan ready for the first time. Finally, combining the exercises suggested in the book for the first 2 sessions, I brought them into the class.
The 45-minute class turned into 60, and they asked us to finish for another 15 minutes after the break, because then came the part about how they can individually contribute to the development. Then came the biggest surprise. Many people wrote 2-3 things on the post-its that I handed out, and I didn't have the feeling that "let's get over it, I'll write something", but I had to wait for them to write down everything they were thinking. They really felt that there could be a change if they did something about it, if they paid attention and were curious about them.
I was touched. I definitely wanted to give feedback (I wanted to write a letter of thanks to Júlia that very day), because the book was a guarantee that this would be successful the first time. A few years ago, I participated in the solution focus training held by Móni Göntér at Solution Surfers, and so I was familiar with the topics of the tasks, but I had never had the opportunity to try them out in the community.
The follow-up of small notes and individual commitments will take place next week with the same class, I am very excited to see if we still have the momentum, a few weeks have passed in the meantime. I suggested the follow-up to the class teacher - I feel that this field is so unfamiliar that they expect a change every once in a while.
After the last event, I asked for feedback from the students and they told the class teacher that they had a good time and would like to do it another time. Another teacher from the same school asked if it could be in his class as well. This book and the methods contained in it fill a gap. I am very grateful for the fact that I receive this ready, immediately usable, and that anyone who wants to deal with this receives it.
Those who typically come to me for coaching are either teenagers or their parents because of their teens. I am also a teenage parent. Without tools, I wouldn't have this relationship with my son. I see that this is what parents and teachers lack the most: the tools to solve difficult situations.
This book provides just that. I would make it mandatory for teachers and parents. So thank you very much!
The Facebook post I shared below was posted on the school's website and I am only linking it here because I was pleasantly surprised to see that many teachers shared it, which gives hope that there is openness, there is hope that there is another way. To raise balanced children so that they do not become frustrated adults.
Thanks for reading and have a happy day,
Éva Vitos
